Dear Lady, Quit Being Needy!

A needy behaviour always stems from a place of insecurity. Who is a needy girl? A girl who’s always running to her boyfriend for help; who’s always texting, calling and emailing even if she when she knows he’s busy at work? A girl who needs constant affection and adoration from her boyfriend in order to feel good about herself. In
fact, she might be depending on him for her own happiness. No matter how much he tries, it is almost impossible for a man to cope with one so a needy woman ends up alone and unhappy. The only way out is to control the behaviour and find ways to deal with it. Below are ways to wean yourself off a needy behaviour:
Stop trying to use your partner to make up for what’s missing in your life: You might be needy because you’re trying to make up for emptiness in your life. Sometimes, we get needy when we need something and we begin to look for it in our relationship. For example, if you’re bored with your job and you’re looking for excitement, look to your boyfriend for some excitement (and get disappointment if he doesn’t give you just what you need) instead of going out there and searching for better work opportunities.

You need to consciously find a balance in your communication. If you find that you always take over most chats while your boyfriend struggles to keep up, it might be a good sign that you need to find a balance for you both. For example, it may be tempting to send a follow-up whenever you send out a text but you must restrain yourself and patiently wait for a response before sending him another text. In the meantime, find something else to take your mind off it.

Don’t bargain for his time or yours. Keeping tabs on how often you’re together isn’t healthy relationship behaviour. You can’t tell him that just because he’s out one day, then he must be with you for the throughout the next day. Your man shouldn’t have to pay for doing the things he wants or else, he might be tempted to go behind your back whenever he wants to do something just to avoid any issues. This can either lead to more lies or him getting fed up when you’re asking for more time.

Get a hobby: There are many things that you can do to improve the skills you already have. Not only will this help you raise your self-esteem, it will also help you learn to depend on yourself. The idea is to keep yourself busy so you can give your man some space.
Neediness not only repels romantic romantic relationships, it also repels regular friendly and even neighbourly relationships. Most people have too much to deal with than having to deal with that needy/clingy/insecure person in their lives… especially not as their partner.
There’s so much more to do if you want to deal with your ‘neediness’ once and for all.