Must read :my valentine experience, raped by my boyfriend
So, imagine my utter shock when his classmate, Ben, came into my class and gave me a note that was according to him – ‘From my biggest admirer ’. On opening the letter, I saw Nelson’s name boldly written.
There was only one Nelson in SS3 so I already knew who it was. I remember my friends and me jumping up excitedly. He asked me to meet him during the break time and I did. He said that he liked me. He wanted to know if I felt the same because he wanted me to be his girl. My heart was beating a mile a minute. Two weeks later, we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend.
He was so good to me and it wasn’t hard for me to begin to love him. If you asked me then, I would’ve told you that I was in love with Nelson. He was all that I thought about and I was sure that I was going to be with him forever. We kept on that way until he graduated. I was scared that he was going to forget me as soon as he left school but it didn’t happen. We found other ways to communicate with each other. In fact, he was the reason why I opened an email account.
Then, my friends and I would sneak into the computer room in school so I could communicate with him and during the weekends, I would go to the cyber café. He didn’t get admission into the university till after one year and so, I would use ‘Saturday classes’ as an excuse to go and visit him. At first, we would gist and laugh and lay together having fun. Then, it graduated to kissing which I was okay with but sometimes, he went even further wanting to touch me in ways that I didn’t like, wanting to lay on top of me etc. I would complain and he would stop and all was right with the world.
That Valentine day that year was a weekday and I had school but Nelson had insisted that he wanted to spend the day with me and I had agreed so that day, I left home to go school as I would normally but instead of going to school, I went over to his place. When I got there, I saw that he was alone at home but it wasn’t abnormal so I didn’t see anything to it. He was happy to see me. He gave me my gift and I gave him mine.
We were gisting and as usual, he began to kiss me and there was heavy touching. He started getting really serious with it so I stopped him and I tried to explain to him as I always would ‘ Nelson it’s getting too far, we need to stop. You know we can’t do it yet till marriage… Remember we’re both very young with school ahead of us. Please, let’s be patient… Remember we’re also Christians ’
He wasn’t happy to stop (he never was), but he did stop. Later, I left his room to go use the toilet. I was in the process of peeing when Nelson walked in to watch me. I didn’t mind, I even smiled because I was so used to him doing that every other time. I was through and I was about to cover up when he held my hand trying to stop me. I was still trying to reason with him until I looked at his face. He was serious about what he was doing and he seemed very angry.
I started to get scared. Before I knew what was happening, he had taken his top and jeans off and all he had on was his boxers. He pounced on me and we struggled to the room where he forcefully had his way with me and disvirgined me. After he finished, I was in tears when I saw the bloodstain on the bed. I couldn’t believe what had just happened. Nelson apologized but he claimed that it was normal because his friend had said that it was always difficult for a girl the first time but she starts enjoying it soon and even asks for more.
I left his house in anger and I ended it there and then. He begged, sent gifts etc but I could not get past it and that was how we ended it. Till today, Valentine’s day is still a very terrible day for me even though I am a married woman with a child who is very much in love with her husband.
That was my Valentine experience.
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