Signs That Your Partner Is Bored.

Recently, I heard someone talking about her relationship. Her boyfriend was calling her phone and she didn’t pick up after a few calls. When her friend asked why, her reply was ‘I’m just tired’. Though she could not give a specifically answer the friend’s many questions as to why she was tired, she was aggravated by the fact that he (the boyfriend) was being so normal as though nothing had happened and for her, that was the worst part of the entire situation.

That got me thinking… What is worse than being bored in your relationship? Having a partner that is indeed bored and not even knowing that they are. Here are signs to know when your partner is bored:

They are constantly reminiscing about the early stage of the relationship… almost like they want those days of love and excitement back You might witness them reminiscing about the days of being single and all the good old memories of that time or making references to the single people and their lives and how they envy them.

You might find that the same person who couldn’t get enough of you in their lives at any point in time suddenly requires some space. In fact, when you try to get involved, they say you’re ‘overwhelming them’ or ‘invading their space’. 

They begin to take on single projects on their own without your assistance.

Your relationship might have become somewhat monotonous. You both never seem to do anything new or try anything different. You let the hassle of every day put you both in a routine.

You might find that the s*x isn’t great anymore and they can’t be bothered hence, they’re not interested in adding some spice or putting in any effort.

They avoid talking about the future. In the past, you might have made plans to travel or to take a course together etc. Suddenly, you find that they’re not happy or willing to make any commitments or give their word on something away from the now.

The same partner that made an effort to please you and cared about your opinion can’t even be bothered to impress you. It becomes that they don’t put in extra effort in their looks; conversation skills etc. except when you both have some company or are in the midst of others. 

They suddenly get irritable. The things about you that they called ‘cute’ before, they now call ‘ annoying ’ or

‘irritating’ . You might have noticed it and thought that they were just having a bad day but sometimes, it goes beyond that especially when they are irritated all the time.

They don’t talk about you unconsciously anymore and they don’t share every detail about their lives with you as before; they’re suddenly withdrawn.

A partner that is bored might not be one that is planning to leave the relationship. Boredom is a phase that most people go through in their relationship. What is left to do is recognize it and fix it before it graduates to the end.