HUSBAND SCARCITY....

HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
By: Maryam Habu Shinga
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there were more men than women then, or
there was an adequate corresponding numbers of
both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the
women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home.
Then, once
a young man comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a
wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really
trying to say? We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and
the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I
cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream!
What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and
later in the marriage, the table turns around, then
comes suffering? Will you run away? No one
prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The
problem is that the description majority of girls
give of their ideal man is virtually the same.
When
50 girls want the same kind of man and the man
that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the
man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of
49 others? They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to
find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally (except
those involved in Internet fraud); even the number
of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are
ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to really
actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled MARRIAGE
IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM.
It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST
MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should
pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS
MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is,
most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that
which is not seen.....