Feel like telling my mother in law to get lost

My mother-in-law has always interfered in my relationship with her son.

Ever since I gave birth to our son three years ago, she’s become much worse. She criticizes all my choices and says the clothes I buy for my son are cheap and second-hand.

She’s mad that we didn’t call the boy the name she gave him saying the one we call him doesn’t reflect the family background.
Most times, she just walks into our house without informing us and hangs around for as long as she likes. Whenever I mention her attitude to my husband, he just shrugs his shoulders and says his mum means no harm. But I’m getting close to being really nasty to her.
Stella
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Dear SteIla,
I think your mother-in-law is probably feeling left out and jealous. I’m sure she would have loved to be more involved in the way her grandson is brought up. So, why not let her join in? If she criticizes you, ask her nicely to help you put things right.
And on a practical level, she could come round occasionally and take your son off your hands.
I’m sure that once your mother-in-law feels more needed and useful, she’ll chill out considerably.